You Need to Talk about It :(

I had to hold my breath so many times through the vide. Just watch. Abuse knows no gender, he is such a sweet man, it’s so painful to watch through it

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33 thoughts on “You Need to Talk about It :(

  1. LosiLosLoco says:

    It hurts. It hurts to watch. But I am grateful this exists. Maybe not an original story but it’s his. So, I’m glad for his catharsis. Thank goodness! Abuse sucks. What a disgusting concept… I’d have to write a post about it………………………WAY TOO MANY thoughts about this topic.

  2. jacquelineobyikocha says:

    I have two-sided feelings about this video. I totally agree that he was abused by his partner and yes indeed, men do get abused. Abuse comes in all forms and manners, but the part that I don’t accept is the non-acceptance of responsibility on his part. He is playing the total victim here and no relationship is one-sided. He was not made to do things, but he chose to do the things that he did!

    • LosiLosLoco says:

      You know, I can agree. He did chose to go back to her after he knew she was toxic. He’s not a total victim. Still, as much as someone can tell you that you aren’t a total victim, when you’re in this situation, you FEEL like a total victim. Feelings are powerful things. Then when you realize you’re not a total victim and that you put yourself in that situation, you feel even more worthless. It’s a vicious cycle.
      You are right Jacqueline. BUT, I am urked by…well, maybe some lack of empathy. A simple, “I hope he’s doing better” would have sufficed. At least, that’s what I would’ve said.
      But I still respect you Jacqueline. That won’t change (I don’t think anyway.) I guess I was just expecting a simple note of empathy from you. And I know text doesn’t translate entire emotions and thoughts. So forgive my assumptions…

      • jacquelineobyikocha says:

        I understand what you are trying to say and my two-sided feelings were probably not well explained. On one side, I feel sorry and empathize with him for having to go through that and on the other side, he should have walked and kept walking. He allowed himself to become and remain a victim until it got too bad. Sometimes, we really have to forcefully break those chains.

      • LosiLosLoco says:

        Oh I see. THAT sounds more like what I would expect you to say. Then, I completely agree. But, some lessons you learn the hard way. Too bad this concept even exists. 😦

    • Mon ☠ says:

      It seems as though he isn’t taking any responsibility for it. But I will talk a little from past experience. People who target to abuse you know really well that you don’t have a concrete sense of reality, meaning you aren’t even sure about what happens, it feels as though everything is happening for the good and that the person we are with is really going to change and whatever they do isn’t really their fault. It starts from childhood kind of when you’re abused in some way and taught that it’s not abuse, but it was what you ‘deserved’. He did choose to do the things he did, true. But that was before he got a more personal sense of reality of what was really happening,. That the thing he was unconsciously hiding under wraps wasn’t coming from good intentions, but from an abuser with an agenda. Or else he wouldn’t have forgiven her the first time to work things out again, only to erase his contacts from his phone later.

  3. 2ndhalfolife says:

    It’s very important for a man to post something like this so people know that a man can suffer from abuse too and that a woman can be a perpetrator. Good for him! Hopefully he’s healing now!

    • Mon ☠ says:

      No, Ridwan. I know it’s in our culture to expect men to be “manly” (whatever that is, I don’t like gender-based steoreotypes) but abuse is real and we at the end of the day still have our human component. We can’t expect everyone to be the same and labeling doesn’t do much good for men nor for women. 😮 Some men don’t speak up for fear that others will demasculinize them 😮

  4. Izrael says:

    Its heartbreaking to watch this video. What he went through was unspeakable and uncalled for. He is brave to voice out his story and I hoped that many others out there can find courage in this. 😊

    • Mon ☠ says:

      I know, it was so much to watch the first time I did. It’s such a powerful message for men everywhere, to allow themselves to be vulnerable and call out abuse when shown.

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