I wrote a comment on someone’s post because I was worried about them getting hurt. And it was obvious from their reply that they were offended. :I I think I was neutral in my statement, almost neutral. But the main lesson is….
Don’t tell the person you’re writing to about the person you are suspecting. I mean, I hate advice like, “You should instead,” etc. But when someone is writing it in a way that indicates that it is just their own thoughts- eg “In my opinion, I would..”- I don’t mind it; I appreciate it in fact. And that’s how I wrote it, but I also made brass judgment on what I thought was happening to them.
Mon, don’t. Don’t. Not if they don’t ask for your opinion. Even if you are worried. You can hurt feelings here without knowing. And the main reason I wrote is was SO that doesn’t happen to this person; although they might think I wrote it with complete disregard for their feelings. And if anyone has to think so, you will be carrying the guilt-ridden consequences. You become a conspirator in your own doom.
This has been on my mind awhile.And his person may forget who I even was, but things linger in my mind. And writing helps to get clarity. I shouldn’t comment on “grown-up”-ish posts anymore. No more of this. I mean, I usually don’t but when I think someone needs support, I give it. But no more if it means I make bold judgments on my part about what another person does to the person I am writing to.
I know this is a confusing post. Who am I even writing about? They shall be nameless. OK, thanks for reading.